Selling Sex /
The sex itself

Overview Just like sex means many different things to different people, selling sex is also very different for different people. Some do it because they enjoy it, or because it’s the best alternative they can find. Others do it for financial reasons, because they have mental health issues, or because they are forced to. Whatever the reason, it’s always good to have some advice on how to make the sex act feel better. The tips below come from people who have experience of selling sex. Anal sex If you are being penetrated, there are ways of making anal sex feel better, even if you are not sexually excited. Most importantly, try to relax your body and not be tense. Some find it easier to “warm up” first with a little lubricant and a finger, for example. Some positions give you more control of the situation. This can be a good idea, especially with a new customer or a large penis. One position that gives you better control is if you “ride” the customer. Which positions are comfortable also depend on the shape of the penis. Find what works for you. You decide the tempo, even if someone has paid you for sex. If you want to stop having sex, do so. You always have the right to stop. Just give the money back and leave. If you are doing the penetrating, it’s important to have the right condom size. You can read more about different sizes of condoms under “Facts”. There is only one way […]

 

Selling Sex /
Before you meet

There are some things to think about before meeting a buyer, no matter if it is your first time selling sex or if you have done it before. First, think about what you are okay with doing, what rules and limits feel good for you. What types of sex are you okay with selling? Is kissing okay or not? How will you start talking about safer sex? When you know the answers to those questions, you can make a deal with a buyer. Not before. And stick with the rules you have made for yourself, even if the buyer wants to pay more for things you have decided you do not want to do. When it comes to safety, we have collected some tips from people who have sold sex. If the buyer sounds drunk or high on the phone, or if they are drunk or high when you meet, you may want to leave. Do not meet buyers when you have taken drugs or drunk alcohol, it will be more difficult for you to see if a situation is dangerous. Find out as much information about the buyer as you can before you meet, and save the information. Call a friend before meeting the buyer, and tell your friend the address, the phone number and other information about the buyer, and how long you will be meeting them. Call your friend afterwards too. Make sure that your mobile phone battery is charged and that you have money on your phone card. Have some cash in your […]

 

Selling Sex /
To stop selling sex

For some people, it takes an active decision to stop selling sex. Others may just phase it out gradually, with no problems. For the money? Most people who sell sex do it for the money. Because we need money for rent, food and othr things, it’s difficult to stop selling sex if you can not get money from somewhere else. If you feel that you want to stop selling, but you need the money, you need to start thinking about the situation and make a plan. It’s good to think about your alternatives. Could you study and get student loans? Are there any jobs around that you are interested in and qualified for? If a first step is to become less financially dependent on selling sex, you could set a goal that half your money could come from selling and half from somewhere else, until you reach the day when you can get all your money from somewhere else. But of course, if you do not have complete grades, or a residence permit, it’s difficult to start studying. And it’s not easy to get a job, even if you have experience and education. If you sell sex to finance a dependency on alcohol or drugs, it’s important to work on those problems. It’s not easy to become free of alcohol or drugs, but it is possible if you want to and work hard. En.rodaparaplyet.org has information on alcohol, drugs and counseling, if you want to drink less or take less drugs, or stop completely. Click […]

 

Selling Sex /
If things go wrong

Sometimes, things don’t go the way you planned. Maybe your limits have not been respected, and that leaves you feeling bad. Maybe there has been physical or sexual abuse. Abuse It is never okay if someone slaps you or otherwise hurts you without an agreement. People react in different ways to being hit. For some, it’s an unpleasant experience but not a deep trauma. For others, there are worse consequences, physically and/or mentally. It’s important to talk about what has happened, with a friend, a partner or a professional. If you need to talk to someone, click “Support and Info” to find help. First, you should visit a hospital emergency room for medical care (akut or akutmottagning in Swedish), even if you “just” have a bruise. Click on this link to find updated info in English. They can also help document your injuries, which can feel very strange, but it is important when you report it to the police. The next step, of course, is reporting what has happened to the police. You decide if you want to do this or not. Many people feel that this is important, because it can help you feel that justice can be served, and you might prevent the person from doing something like this again, to you or to someone else. You can find your nearest police station thorugh this link.  It can be a good idea to bring a friend when you report a crime, especially if the police do not treat you well. If they treat you in […]

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